Never leave an argument in anger

Arguments always come up between two (or more) people close to each other in a family and one of them can turn into heated ones. One may feel tempted to simply walk away from it in rage, which is not the right way to end an argument for the following reasons:

1. After going away, both parties keep thinking about the argument, which is a waste of time and mental energy. It may also lead to unnecessary escalation of more enfuriating thoughts and incorrect assumptions.

2. Life is improbable in terms of events. It is possible, even if remote, that this could be the last meeting between the two. In case of such an event, a person will end up repenting his/her action of getting unnecessarily angry but it will be too late by then.

3. If one person does not get enough chance to speak his/her side of the argument before the other walks away, he/she will feel insulted, which adds to the issue already at hand.

It is therefore always better to resolve the issue then and there before walking away, unless both parties “agree” that the issue is complex enough to contemplate for some time before meeting again. But in such cases, it is important that the agreement is mutual.

Walking away in anger and shutting the door behind you is not an intelligent option.

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1 Comment

  1. ash said,

    August 29, 2006 at 10:29 am

    This is so true. I never thought of this myself until my girlfriend told me how strongly she felt about this (not during or after an argument). Now I make sure that we settle any little disagreements before they have the chance to escalate.


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