Live for yourself

How many times do we perform actions because of other people? It happens so often that for some, living for others becomes a nature and a way of life. Here are some examples:

1. You cannot go and attend a pottery or dance class because you fear what would people start thinking about you if you do.
2. You have to buy that new plasma TV because the Sanders family just got one.
3. You have to watch the latest movies because if you don’t, you are not cool in others’ eyes.
4. You cannot forgive people for their actions because they should be made to realize what they have done to you.

The list can go on and on and almost every person can identify with at least one of those. At times, it starts to feel like a chain tied around your ankles and wrists that prevents you from doing things that you do (or should not do, in some cases). Not just that, keeping up with this state of mind is an uphill task, because the more people you interact with, more will be the variety of their expectations and judgements about you. You end up practically being a slave of others.

There is definitely a way out, and it may not seem easy at first. Stop and think again when you face any of the above-mentioned situations. Ask yourself: “How much does this matter to me? Is it more important for me to save for my kids’ education or should I spend on the plasma TV only to keep up with others?” If you really want to keep with others, you can try giving your kids a chance to be better than those of Sanders by offering your kids better education. Decide what is really worth your hard-earned money.

If someone (not your near and dear one) hurts you, ask yourself: “how much does this person matter to me?” You have so many things to occupy your mind with and projects to undertake for yourself, family and friends that you cannot keep thinking about the situation in the back of your mind. Deal with it, immediately. Either forgive or forget. You have things to do and you want to move on.

If you want to attend something fun such as a pottery or Latin dance class, stop worrying about what others will think. Instead ask how you would feel about yourself once you get done with it? Will you feel good? Will you be impressed by yourself?

People will think about your actions only for a moment because they too have a life of their own. But if all they do is talk about you amongst themselves to judge you, then they are not worth your concern. Either way, there is no reason to live for “people”. Live for your family, for your real friends, and most importantly, for yourself.

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24 Comments

  1. i.love.life said,

    February 16, 2008 at 12:48 am

    I really like this!
    I was looking for somethign that might help me feel better/become a new person.
    Thanks a lot, you really helped.
    🙂

  2. Anonymous said,

    April 20, 2009 at 10:40 pm

    nice written.
    But it’s hard to live for yourself and give a dam’n to the world.
    Those who live this way, are highly appreciable.

  3. Drainos said,

    March 29, 2010 at 6:58 am

    Very nice

  4. Sleepwalker said,

    April 6, 2010 at 2:16 pm

    This. I so love this. I used to know this thing, and totally lost sight of it. I’ve lost so much because I’ve wanted people to like me. To think I’m cool, worthy, worthwhile. I liked myself so much more when I didn’t try to live up to other people’s expectations and rules. What have I gotten from this? Nothing. No job, no life, isolation from myself…

    Yay. Life fail. Awesome!

    • Filip said,

      May 1, 2010 at 7:39 am

      I totally know what u mean… U and me are in the same both and seems to be taking on water sinking fast.

  5. Jun said,

    May 3, 2010 at 2:07 am

    Great! this is exactly something i needed to hear to start living for me again like i used to.

  6. Sarah said,

    June 10, 2010 at 7:38 pm

    I don’t know how to live for myself. It’s called codependency.

  7. T said,

    July 10, 2010 at 10:37 pm

    I used to live that that. In order to live up to others’ expectations, I always did the lion’s share of the work, although I don’t want to. I just tried to not upset others. I just wanted them to like me. Sometimes, I hated myself. If that was “team work”, why did I have to everything? If they were really my “friends”, why didn’t they bear the burden with me? Why, after I had done a lot for them, did they still gossip about me? I was saddened very much. But now, I have decided to make a new beginning. I want to live for myself for the first time.
    Thanks for the post. It really helps. =]

  8. Amps said,

    July 26, 2010 at 6:32 am

    I loved your views about life…Its food for soul..:)

  9. chinna said,

    November 29, 2010 at 12:51 am

    very very nice points to lead good life

  10. shohreh said,

    January 30, 2011 at 5:51 am

    i like it. it helped me.

  11. martin said,

    April 26, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    Live for yourself, you’ll live in vain. Live for others, you’ll live again

  12. June 30, 2011 at 5:47 am

    I like it.

  13. minh said,

    July 10, 2011 at 3:12 am

    go to http://www.thework.com by Byron Katie I think you should find something for you
    Minh

  14. Sudip said,

    August 3, 2011 at 1:16 am

    Yaar, life is only one.
    Every single moment is very much costly for ourself…
    Why we make it too lite..

  15. Sudip said,

    August 3, 2011 at 1:17 am

    Yaar, life is only one.
    Every single moment is very much costly for ourself…
    Why we make it too lite..
    Live for yourself

  16. garima said,

    August 6, 2011 at 2:07 am

    it is really important to live for yourself….i really liked this article..

  17. Anom said,

    September 6, 2011 at 7:20 am

    This helped me. thanx for the post.

  18. hadeel said,

    October 5, 2011 at 3:16 am

    hey to be honest am working on it cz am trrying to go over such things which bother me all the time…………………thanks

  19. eightypercentofstatistics said,

    January 22, 2012 at 7:40 pm

    Reblogged this on the Westwood skies.

  20. brandy said,

    March 19, 2012 at 2:14 am

    i hate life and others

  21. Anonymous said,

    March 21, 2012 at 7:36 am

    Gosh.. I’m finally thinking about taking those acting classes now! I was thinking about waiting till summer, cause I’m shy and think I’ll make myself look stupid in front of people. And I’m always paranoid and worrying at school that people are talking about me behind my back, or hating on me and it’s not even true! And when people do stare at me, I start to worry they hate me or something when I don’t even know them!

    But life’s too short, and I’m 15 years old. I should what I want! :)xx

    Thanks so much!! :)xx

  22. Rajesh Kumar said,

    August 12, 2012 at 1:22 am

    Real great.

  23. Thomas said,

    September 27, 2012 at 9:07 pm

    Good stuff.


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